Posted in Reading, travel

Girls Trip – You should try one

Long before the 2017 American comedy Girls Trip with the star-studded cast of Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett Smith, Regina Hall and Tiffany Haddish, the trips were a thing.

I did two of such trips in 2019 and they were therapeutic. I would therefore like to recommend a few reasons why women of all ages should take a Girls Trip.

Beach Front, Ocho Rios, JAMAICA

Before I get into the reasons though, it is a time when you can sample a new set of experiences to include, food, wine, attractions, sport, theatre, music among a few things.

  1. You can do this from as early as college. Girls Trip can be used to conduct research for that final paper before graduation; or if there is a conference you want to go to network, plan a few days around it.
  2. After College, it is a way to have a reunion with your circle, especially if everybody moved back home and got new and exciting jobs/projects and it will provide a great opportunity for updates face to face.
  3. If you keep in touch with your friends from as far back as high school, then here is another reason. Even within the big-group reunion, there is always room for four/five of you (who are close) to reconnect.
  4. Girls Trips can also be fun for sport. Say the Summer Olympics which is coming up (July 24 to August 9) in Tokyo, Japan. I don’t need to add anything more on this one.
  5. Work friends can use it to unwind, once you can all get vacation at the same time
  6. If you are part of service clubs, community groups, a small group from either team can take a trip too.

Travel Tips

  • Make a budget
  • Four/five days are good (especially if it is the first)
  • Check the weather and pack accordingly
  • Select a team leader (she will create an agenda)
  • Use miles
  • Book for the airport closest to the hotel
  • Book room for at least two each
  • Look up the great restaurants
  • See what events are on so you can book tickets early
  • Check if it is more reasonable to do Uber/Lyft – or rent a car

These trips are usually shared expenses and if you suggest an activity outside of what was agreed, ensure there is enough notice. Also, plan an hour or so and do a gift exchange, preferably on the last evening before departure. You can pick up on hints on what each other like, so that should be easy. And take loads of pictures. – the memories are what matter.

So, start calling your girlfriends from school college or work, and plan a trip for 2020. You will be glad you did. Go for the fun, enjoy the experience.


Posted in Care, Reading, self care

Self Care – Part 5 – Reading

In this encounter, I will delve into another area which helps you to feel great about yourself. So far I would have encouraged you to eat right, enjoy music, travel for leisure and sport; but this time I want you to explore reading.

There are so many quotes/sayings associated with reading; here are some to chew on:

  • We read to know we are not alone 
  • Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light –Vera Nazarian
  • I think of life as a good book. The further you get into it, the more it begins to make sense – Harold Kushner
  • Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers – Charles William Eliot

Reading has a way of taking you into a space which can help you to relax when life is throwing serious challenges at you. Reading takes you away, even temporarily, from the reality of what you confront, to a place where you want to be. Reading also gives you the opportunity to consult over and over without any judgment from anyone – it is that gift you can open over and over again.


The good thing is, you can read just about anywhere

  • On the train
  • On a plane
  • At the coffee shop
  • In your bed
  • On your couch
  • In class
  • On the beach
  • Even in a meeting

Here are some ways you can start the habit of reading

  • Research the authors you find readable
  • Get their books
  • Find books on topics you find interesting – this makes reading easy
  • Find books on topics you need to learn more on – this can be hard in the beginning, but you will get there
  • Find a source to get the books – online or at a book store
  • Also, determine if you prefer books or on your device/s

Reading is a worthwhile hobby, but can tack up costs very quickly, so find ways and means to get books at the most reasonable costs. Join a book club so you can find folks who may want to exchange ideas and even books. A book club is also a way to be encouraged to read more, the interactivity helps.

The impact of reading on your life should be a positive one and I encourage you to read a book at least once a quarter; that is the recommendation if you are just getting into the habit. At the moment, I read a book a month, sometimes two; but then I have been doing this for a long time.

Whatever you decide to do, read a book soon – Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body – Richard Steele.